I am a HUGE romantic and quite the optimistic CHEERLEADER when it comes to LOVE and all matters of the heart. I truly am committed to creating something real, blissful and worth while in my own love life. I have also been blessed with the opportunity to help others with their own search for that “soul mate oneness” we all seem to be longing for. When I was recently asked to write about finding love from a “Spiritual Perspective”, I was a little clueless how to write this piece. You see, I find myself back in the throws of the dating world these days. Sometimes scary, sometimes exhilarating and often disappointing. I’ll be honest, up until recently it’s been one WILD RIDE… and then it dawned on me, as a spiritual teacher who’s message is always about heart-centered love and the belief beyond statistics, I surprisingly allowed past conditioning and limited beliefs around relationships to cloud my ability to see through the facade. Isn’t that what we all seem to end up doing in the quest for undying love?
In my own mediumship practice, I have been so blessed to experience REAL loving relationships that withstand the test of time even when the other partner is now residing in Spirit. A love so deeply connected, that not even DEATH gets in the way of it. This is the “The Note Book” kind of relationship that I’m talking about here, like the ones in fairy tales that many of us have been conditioned to believe does not exist. How can that possibly be? That’s a role model relationship right there and the question is, how do WE get it? This my friends, is what we call the expression of “undying love”. As I am in the midst of manifesting that kind of heart magic in my own life, imagine my surprise when my spirit guides brought it to my attention that I was completely missing the whole message. If you are not in the same vibrational place of your journey by the time you meet, all the love and patience in the world for one another is not going to sustain it. Here are some keen insights that I have picked up along the way.
1. NEVER SETTLE. Do not allow the conditioning that you received in your life time to convince you to ever settle for ANYTHING less then what your heart desires. YOU MY LOVE, DESERVE IT. Never doubt that.
2. MORE THAN WORDS. Action is the verb relationship possibilities thrive on. If the vibration of commitment isn’t coming forth in the form of action, something is clearly missing in your connection. This is when things usually get uncomfortable. One person is inclined to talk about it while the other most likely gets defensive and retreats. After all, no one wants to hear that they are not fulfilling their partners needs. Constant connection and momentum is a must.
3. PRIORITY NOT AFTERTHOUGHT. When you find yourself beginning to question if you are an afterthought rather than a top priority in your partners life, there is a reason. In my experience, when this situation has surfaced, the “busy life excuses” start coming out of the woodworks and I’m told not to take things too personally, when conversation has been dropped for an unhealthy amount of time. (ie ghosting). Ask your heart, how long it is willing to settle for less than total joy. There is absolutely no reason why you should not have it all. Excuses Begone…If you matter to your mate, they will find a way to embrace you into their life and make you a priority.
4. CARPE YOUR DIEM. Your time is very valuable. Does living your best life include questioning whether or not you’re with the one? Quite frankly if you have to ask yourself that question, you might not want to know the answer. After you know in your heart you have done everything you can to make it work, acknowledge it’s time to disconnect. No more repeatedly voicing your concerns to a deaf audience, simply drop the mic and exit stage left. Trust me, they’ll get the memo you’ve left the building when you are no longer snacking on their stale breadcrumbs.
In close, stay true to the desires and passions of your heart and understand you are worthy of the loving respect and admiration that you desire. Absolutely make no apologizes to wanting what your heart wants. Have the COURAGE to say “NO THANK YOU…NEXT PLEASE?” to whats not working. Your soul has all the answers, let it to lead you to the individual that becomes breathless when you enter the room and makes you a priority in their world just as much as you make them in yours. And…Never loose faith in your abilities to manifest the “GREATEST LOVE STORY OF YOUR LIFE.”
Much Love, Light and Insight~Elisa
Much Gratitude to Marie C Mulholland for your co-writing assistance and beautiful love and support on this heart-felt copy.
Nick Demos is a Tony Award winning producer, award winning filmmaker, and writer. He has been teaching yoga, pranayama (breath work) and meditation for over a decade.
Many of those in my beautiful spiritual community will ask me on occasion ” Elisa, How can I stay connected with my spirit guides and truly trust the connection?” I always get excited to answer these heart-conscious inquiries.
Just the other day I had a phone reading with a client, she was really irritated with me that I was delivering guidance from her “Spiritual Guides.” She went on to say, actually at this point, she was screaming “I want INFORMATION, my GUIDES HAVE RUINED MY LIFE and I do not want to hear from them I want YOU to give me answers! I first wanted to ask ” Have you read my website? I work solely with your higher self, your guides and angels.” Because I have unyielding guidelines in my practice against those who attempt to control the sessions in such a way, I shut down the reading immediately and lovingly wished her well on her journey. I have witnessed time and time again, when egos are invited into the session, it no longer supports my truest intentions to help the individual move forward from a soul stamina perspective. The situation really invited me to be in a place of reflection around how important it is to be in a trusting place with your own spiritual team.
Now, Back to the initial question. “How can I stay connected and truly trust it?” First of all, you must come to an understanding that your spiritual team is made up of a higher level of consciousness including your highest self, YES, I’ll say it again, YOU, my love, are a part of your own spiritual entourage. There is NO separation here of you verses your team. So when guidance comes through, your souls consciousness is actually giving you the guidance. Our intuition is merely our native language, some choose to use it, some choose to lose it. It’s not a matter of actually trusting your guides as much as it is trusting the essence of your truest divine make up. This practice takes clear consciousness and the energetic belief system beyond logic and ego.
In closing, The best way to sit with your own highest truth around this question would be to take a little connection inventory. Ask your self what you feel at any direct moment in any situation in your path. Are you at peace, empowered and feel emotionally and consciously connected or are you feeling, fearful, out of control, angry and argumentative? One vibration is consciously clear and connected and the other simply is not.
Much Love, Light and Insight~Elisa
I actually came across these valuable words of wisdom from Walt Whitman from a morning tea bag just a few months ago and felt deeply inspired to take a photo. The innate wisdom did not start to resonate and ring true for my own soul until a recent visit to the fear-based belief vibrations I was raised in. I was truly tested to the core of my being, and thanks to years and years of knowing my own truth and working on my own spiritual growth, I truly believe I passed the test.
When people stay stuck in their story’s, they often need validation in order to justify their behaviors, belief systems and limitations. Sometimes, the extremes they go to can be acoustic, judgmental, fear mongering and downright mean and critical.
If the intelligence of your soul, is screaming for you to run, then that is your inner divine compass trying to remind you of your own innate truth that will always and only come from within. Trust the intelligence of your soul, it will always have your back. Much Love, Light and Insight~Elisa 🗝
In my line of service, I sit daily with individuals and families who are dealing with great amounts of sadness, sorrow, and the deepest of grief in their losses. After being a part of this beautiful healing dance for a few years now, I have been able to take notice of a divine pattern that seems to miraculously take place.
The individuals who walk into my office, or even my group or audience readings are seldom the same individuals who leave. The sorrow when they enter is such a thick cloud of heaviness, and in contrast, the energy when they exit, is a restored sense of promise and proof that the loving connection with their loved ones, still very much exist. It’s not just my job to deliver messages from loved ones in spirit, it’s also my honor to be 100% present in those moments, to feel everything and then help those who come for readings, bridge an understanding that DEATH is not the end of a relationship, and LOVE is the ingredient that holds that understanding.
Once the understanding that the connection to a continued relationship with our loved ones in spirit starts with holding the deep love that we have for them, wonderful and amazing things start to happen. We truly can feel their presence, we are more open to the synchronicity of signs they bring us and we have a true knowing that they are always near. I like to believe that our loved ones in spirit are constantly sending us those little Love Notes From Heaven and Love is the mailing address.
Just remember, LOVE is truly the most powerful component that bridges the healing connection, It’s Forever, it’s Eternal, and it Surpasses life.
Much Love, Light & Insight~Elisa
Embracing my Shadow today, and an epiphany occurred! It’s truly ok to stand in the truth of our dislikes just as much as we boldly stand in that which brings us comfort, joy and happiness. We’ve often been conditioned to believe that we are being difficult if we are not agreeable. The dislikes are a filtering system, an inventory process if you will. The dislikes re-introduce us to the higher self wisdom just as much as the “warm and fuzzy’s” do. We truly go deeper in evolvement when we embrace all sides of our being. Embracing that shadow within, opens the opportunity for the light to shine even brighter.
Much Love, Light & Insight~Elisa
Have you ever wondered how spirit communication works? There have been many television shows around the subject these days that have show cased the gifts and talents of many mediums, delivering messages in such a precise clarity, that it can sometimes leave you to question “How did they know that?”
After the storm hits the village and all thats left is ruin, rumble and wreckage, there will be a stillness amongst the dust, chaos and shadows where the light gallantly shines through, that can only be recognized as a whisper of peace.
For peace, has a posture that can not be mistaken. It can stand tall and gracefully alone, without props or podiums, glitz and glamour or smoke and mirrors. It’s the truth that shows up as a promise and the embrace that carries us through to the other side of hope.
“How can you possibly do a reading for someone by way of phone or video chat?” I get asked this question quite often.
Are you a highly sensitive person and have been told on various occasions that you need a tougher skin? First off, consider the source and you’ll find that most of these suggestions come from highly unhappy, deeply insecure and emotionally wounded individuals who maybe somewhere down their own path and journey were conditioned to believe that sensitivity was a weakness.
Sensitivity is an attribute and quality direct from our Creator. In that, sensitivity is an amazing gift and strength. So please please, if you are going to be the change you want to see in the world, never harden your heart and be less than your amazing gifts and strength just for the sake of making others comfortable in their discomfort. Much Love, Light & Insight, ~ Elisa
Happy New Year! As we hug 2015 goodbye with gratitude for it’s service, I invite you all to really think about your inner dialogue. The things that you are telling yourself may no longer be serving you on your journey. What we think about becomes our reality, so to connect from a higher perspective is key.