People Pleasers in the house? Oh yes, I myself am a former tribe member in recovery as your poster child. I still to this day catch myself feeling the need to please others. Just this past Christmas for example, I had some house guest who weren’t compassionate enough to take my no for answer, even though they knew I was recovering from the flu. The end result was that I gave in, pushed myself to the point of extreme exhaustion and needless to say, they were unpleased with the results and went to great extremes and distasteful measures to let me and anyone who would listen know how disappointed they were. Because I was not recovered fully from the flu, that exhaustion, led to walking pneumonia as well. I do feel a divine intervention was in play to protect me from carrying such unsupportive energies into what has become such an expansive and prosperous 2019, but WOW what a hard hit lesson on not honoring yourself first and standing firm in your NO.
As I reflected, took inventory and full responsibility on how I continue to allow such experiences to creep into my life, I could not help but to hold myself accountable with a few questions. Who allowed this to happen? Answer: Yours truly. Why was it so imported to put your needs last just because someone insisted? Answer: I must not value myself. Now, that burning question that leads us to the truth of the matter… When you say Yes out of obligation, who and what are you saying No to? Answer: Sadly, The integrity, the self confidence and the authenticity of my innate truth and HIGHER SELF. BOOM DROP THE MIC I DO BELIEVE THIS GIRL FINALLY GETS IT!!!!
When you know better you start to do better (Oprah shout out). When I now find myself in any position that compromises the integrity of the foundation of my higher truth, I now rephrase the question. “IF I SAY NO TO THIS CERTAIN REQUEST, WHO AND WHAT AM I SAYING YES TO? There is certainly an EBB and FLOW to YES and NO! For every NO you say, there is a higher powered and more accommodating YES waiting for you right around the corner. I realize now that if I were to have said no to my house guest last December, my health and the integrity they attempted to comprimise would had remained unshaken. That would had been a Yes worth giving myself. The impactful lesson that came from it though was also truly valuable and for that, I bless them for the part they played in my awakening. As we all move forward to higher living just remember the beautiful gift that comes from the EBB and FLOW of YES and NO.
Much Love, Light and Insight~Elisa